Because Tomorrow Happens in the Blink of an Eye


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NYC here we come!

This title comes from an advertisement in the November 2017 issue of Southern Living Magazine.  The advertisement is for Kiawah Island.  When reading this back issue earlier today, the title hit me as an apt description for the fast passing of time, something I am more keenly aware of recently than ever before.  In my earlier years, I think I thought that time would last forever.  Now at 66 years of age, I know better.  That is one reason I am committed to making memories that will last forever, because I know I will not.  One of the memories that I hope will last forever is time spent with our dear children and grandchildren.  The most recent of those is a wonderful trip to NYC with our middle granddaughter, Elsie, to celebrate her 11th birthday.


Lunch at Juniors before the play.

I am reminded of a business colleague of my husband Mike’s, Paul O’Day.  Paul passed away last year, but not before he and his wife spent precious time taking each of their grandchildren on a special trip at a certain age.  Paul talked about those memories several times when we were with him.  Although he no longer is, I am sure that those memories are alive with his loved ones.

Since first hearing of those trips from Paul O’Day, I have heard from others how they also make memories with their grandchildren.  All of those memories do not have to involve travel, but in our case, since travel is a big part of our lives, it seemed appropriate to take our grandchildren on a special trip.  So, Mike and I decided that we should not wait any longer to begin that tradition, and we decided to begin with Elsie, whose birthday occurred soon after our decision.   Elsie was given the choice of where to travel for her special trip with us, and she chose NYC.


The Lady is a powerful reminder of our country’s openness, compassion, and strength.

Our trip with Mary Grace, who is soon to be 13, will be this year also.  Although five-year-old Virginia is already talking about her trip, that will have to wait until she is older!

Elsie and I flew from Jacksonville, Florida to NYC on Wednesday morning, February 7th.  This trip coincided with a business trip of Mike’s, and he flew in later that day from a business trip in Miami.  Although we only had two full days, we managed to do everything that was on Elsie’s list.


The School of Rock rocks!

This included the School of Rock play, a Mani/Pedi, a hair styling for her and one of her American Girl dolls, an ear piercing for her doll, a trip to the Statue of Liberty which included a walk to the crown, lunch at the American Girl Café on her birthday, and a visit to Rockefeller Plaza to greet the Today Show hosts.  It was quite exciting that Al Roker, who happens to be Elsie’s favorite Today Show host, shook her hand and wished her a happy birthday!  Additionally, we had pizza the first night at Uncle Paul’s and dinner the second night at Eataly.  We also visited the American Girl store several times and even had Elsie’s hair done a second time before her birthday lunch.  What we did not do much of was rest!


After Elsie’s birthday lunch at the American Girl Café, we boarded the plane and left New York Friday afternoon.  We arrived in Jacksonville in time to celebrate Elsie’s birthday with family and her bestie Stella at Cooper’s Hawk Restaurant. IMG_3790

As I think about our trip to New York with Elsie, I am so grateful that we had this special time with her.  I think that is the first time that we have had Elsie all by herself.  Mary Grace, being the firstborn, had the family all to herself for a couple of years before Elsie was born.  Virginia has had special time when her two older sisters were away at camp.  I do not recall us ever having Elsie without her sisters also being present.  Being the middle child, and also given her personality, Elsie does not “demand” attention. It was wonderful to have Elsie all by herself and to be able to give her undivided attention.  I think we need to make time for each granddaughter alone, and not just with special trips. Their parents do spend time with each of the girls, and this time alone with Elsie has made me aware of the importance of this.



Dinner at Eataly!

Elsie looked forward to her special trip with us with great anticipation.  She was so excited about it before and during the experience.  Now that it has passed, I am sure there is somewhat of a letdown for her.  I feel the same.  In the middle of the experience, I knew we were having a very special time, and that it would end too soon.  While the trip had to end, I hope that the memories will last.

I hope that the memories of our special trip to NYC with Elsie will remain with her long past the time when we can’t.

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P.S. This Blog Post was written before hearing of the tragedy in the Broward County, Florida high school shooting.  I can’t imagine the grief of the parents and other family members who lost loved ones in this tragedy.  My prayers are with all of those involved in this latest horrific school shooting.














About Patti Fralix

Patti Fralix inspires positive change in work, life, and family through Speaking, Consulting, and Coaching in three specialty areas: Leadership, Managing Differences, and Customer Service. Her leadership firm, The Fralix Group, Inc., has been helping clients achieve practical and tangible results for twenty-two years.
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4 Responses to Because Tomorrow Happens in the Blink of an Eye

  1. What a beautiful post with Elsie! I am so glad you shared special time with just her. I love all the photos and you can tell by the look in her eyes how much fun she was having! Blessings my dear friend!

  2. Elaine Matson says:

    What a wonderful time you had with that sweet
    little girl. I know Elsie will always remember that

    I loved reading your article. I totally agree with
    you. Time is passing much too fast and we need
    to spend as much time as possible with our children
    and grandchildren.

    Love you!


  3. Diane Hooks says:

    Love this idea. Wish we had done this with our niece & nephew. We are just a few miles from the heartbreaking shooting in Florida. We are watching the Town Hall meeting at Sunrise BB&T Center now. Those students are doing an awesome job. All week they have been composed and compassionate . Such great speakers! You are right In a blink of an eye ❤️

    • Patti Fralix says:

      Thank you so much, Diane. We had a wonderful time with our granddaughter Elsie. This latest shooting reinforces how time passes so quickly, and we do not know when our time with our loved ones will end. I cannot imagine the grief the parents and fellow students of all of the shootings have endured. I have watched the students of this latest shooting as they have spoken so eloquently and passionately about this, and am amazed at their ability to stand tall in the midst of their grief, and work to make meaningful change. Our country will be better because of them.

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