The Most Important Change to Make

Jim Rohn, considered by many as America’s greatest business philosopher, said many things worth remembering. His quote, “Work hard at your job and you can make a living. Work hard on yourself and you can make a fortune,” is on my mind lately. I am writing a book on Change, and the change that I am writing about is changing me. The stimulus for this latest change effort of mine was several major experiences in 2017, the latest of which was living through Hurricane Irma when it hit St. Maarten on September 6, 2017. A quote that came to me during that major life experience was, “When I thought I was going to die, I decided to really live.”  What “really live” means for me is still evolving. I have, however, made several changes that make my life more satisfying. More about those later. This post isn’t really about me, or my latest book. It is about the insight that can hopefully be of benefit to you. Continue reading

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Management that Matters

She works in a bar and grill at Oak Island during the summer while she is out on college break. Mike and I had recently met her there. I learned that she previously worked at a local restaurant. Mike and I had been to that restaurant for dinner the night before this conversation. It is one of my favorite restaurants on the island. So, it was interesting to get her perspective on her previous employer. Her statements said it all.

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Managing Expectations


Posted at Marbles Kids Museum in Raleigh, NC. Obviously not just for children!

We all have expectations, although perhaps we should not. Expectations that are not met can result in us being disappointed. A friend of mine states, “Expect Nothing, and you won’t be disappointed!” (Credit to Jennifer; last name omitted to protect the guilty!) But what are expectations? Perhaps it is best to have a common definition of the word before going any further in the discussion. Continue reading

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It is About the People, Every Time


Our temporary Clubhouse and a few of our wonderful customers, both internal and external. L to R: John, Bailey, Mike, Patti, Mel, Jim, and Karen.

It isn’t about the facility. It isn’t about the food. It is about the people. You and I know this, but sometimes we forget. I had a good reminder of this recently. Continue reading

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How Does She Do It?


Virginia, cousin Bridget, and Nana on the paddle boats at Pullen Park

We have had our youngest granddaughter, Virginia, with us for a few days, for Camp Nana and Camp Dr. Danks. She has been absolutely precious. And she has been exhausting!  Where does her energy come from? She is still going strong, and I am exhausted!   Continue reading

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A Celebration of Life

oakislandgolfclubMost of us have just finished celebrating the 4th of July, and time with family and friends. Since the holiday fell in the middle of the week, many could not travel for there was only one day of the holiday, unless personal time off was included. Given the schedule, neither of our daughters and their families could be with us at the beach. So, Mike and I took our elder statesman Uncle Barry with us to the beach for the week. We had a wonderful time. We never take our time with Uncle Barry for granted, for at his soon to be 88 years of age, we know he will not live forever. But then again, given his energy and zest for life, he might! We can all learn a lesson from Uncle Barry about how to appreciate every day, take nothing for granted, and be grateful for whatever is given to you.   Continue reading

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American Pride


Another 4th of July has come and gone. Many are still celebrating at the beach or mountains, or in their backyards. Whatever fun and festivities this week has held for you, I hope that you have enjoyed the holiday. This is one of the weeks in the summer that many of us slow down, barbecue with family and friends, and enjoy the bounty of our country.

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