Bernadette loved lobster!
She called me on my birthday last November and sang “Happy Birthday” to me on my voicemail. I saved it, so I can still hear her voice. I found her last handwritten “Thank You” note this morning, thanking me for a gift of perfume that I sent her. So, I have her handwriting as a memory of her thoughtfulness. I have a lovely crystal vase she gave me several years ago, for which I failed to send her a thank you note, although I always planned to. She will never receive that note. My daughter Tara and my granddaughters drove to Canada to see her last summer, and she and they had a wonderful time together. In her thank you note to me mentioned above, she said, “I did so enjoy my visit with Tara and the children. Hope they come again.” They wanted to go back this summer, but if they do, they will not be able to see her. Continue reading
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Tagged Bernadette Hession, big hat, Canada, celebration of life, death, gifts, grace, happy memories, hat, joy, life well lived, love, memories, no guilt, no regrets, no troubled relationships, Patti Fralix, The Fralix Group, visit
I went back to WW today, the first time since October of 2017. I have been paying monthly yet not going during that time. I have avoided the WW scale, although I get on my scale at home every day and watch it fluctuate a pound or two most days, weeks, and months. I have been kidding myself into thinking that I was counting points and calories, yet not changing some of the habits that have been in my way. A good friend of mine was my inspiration for these changes. Thank you, MoMo.
I finally faced myself head on and made a major change. And I am not talking about the change of going back to WW. Going back to WW was the result of the other Change, (which I am calling “The Big C,”) a change I am not ready to talk about yet with most people. I will be transparent about The Big C that is driving other changes once I hit ninety days with no backsliding. I am on day ten. Stay tuned. Continue reading
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Tagged Atomic Habits, Audible, authentic, be the change, best self, Brene Brown, change, Changing Me from the Inside Out, commitment, confidence, Gandhi, goals, habits, happiness, happy, health, I Thought It Was Just Me, identity, inspiration, James Clear, Patti Fralix, process, Stress Mess and Less, The Big C, The Fralix Group, weight loss, world desire, WW
A wonderful book by one of my longtime favorite authors.
Everyone reading this shares a common experience. All have, or have had, a mother. This is true even if you and your mother were separated at birth. Who mothered you may be the woman who adopted you, or a grandmother or other family member who took care of you. Many of you are now mothers and understand the role much better than you did before you became a mother. Continue reading
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Tagged Becoming, book club, Changing Me from the Inside Out, compassion, good mother, independent woman, Laura Bush, love, Michelle Obama, Mother's Day, mothering, mothers, not condemnation, Patti Fralix, Spoken from the Heart, stay at home mom, The Fralix Group, women, working
While this implies it isn’t just about us, we can only control our words and actions.
We may never know the impact our words and actions have on others. Or if and when we do, it may be many years later. I had two examples of this in recent days, and I am still amazed by them. Since I can’t get these examples out of my mind, I thought hearing about them might be interesting to my readers. Continue reading
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Tagged actions, Drew, Fralix, fresh ground coffee, Maya Angelou, memories, Mike Fralix, old friends, Patti Fralix, People will never forget, positivity, The Fralix Group, Virginia, Wilson Cotillion, words
How do you plan your days, weeks, months, and years? Or do you? Perhaps you are more likely to take time as it comes, without even a thought of planning. After all, isn’t there too much to do in the time available anyway? What difference does planning make? Well, quite a lot, if and when we make decisions about how we are going to spend our time. Continue reading
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The older I get, the more I find the need to hold on loosely to whatever I have. If I hold onto things too tightly, I have more difficulty letting them go when it is time, or when they are ripped from me. When I was younger, I thought things would last forever. I thought the same about relationships. What was once thought to be a secure job, was gone. A marriage that was assumed to last forever, didn’t. Financial security when it is most needed is not there. Or the Notre Dame Cathedral, which stood for more than eight hundred years, seriously damaged and almost destroyed this week, the holiest of weeks. Some of these we assume will last forever, only to find otherwise. Continue reading