Our Current Reality


Spring is here and Easter is coming, even when our current reality can have us focused only on survival.

This is my fifth day of (partial) self-quarantine.  While not (yet) required, my husband and I have remained in our home most of the time for the past five days. I have mainly only gone out to the grocery stores. I have also supported the drive-through at Starbucks and made one trip to TJ Maxx. Mike has ventured out to his office a couple of days, being only one of two (physically distanced) people there. I think for both of us our outings have been more for diversion than anything else. The rest of the time we have hunkered down at home, doing what we do during normal times; Mike on his computer, and me in the kitchen. So far, it has not been too difficult. That will certainly change if this current reality becomes our new normal.

I am a thinker, and I have even more time to think than usual. A lot of my thinking now relates to our new and current reality. I am confused as to some of the rules regarding the partial shutdown. In most states, and in ours, NC, all bars and restaurants are closed except for take-out. Yet other businesses, like discount stores, consignment stores, and antique stores remain open. Other than for groceries, do we really need to be shopping during this crisis? I recognize that there are probably not as many people in those stores as there would be in restaurants if they were to remain open, but that could be controlled by instituting the required physical distancing and limiting the number of people being served.


So much of our normal life is now “Closed Until Further Notice.”

It seems to me that restaurants and bars have been unfairly singled out in having to shut down. Many of these eating and socializing establishments will go out of business, not able to withstand the loss of business. While I realize that it Is crucial to limit the spread of this virus, how the decisions are being made regarding such seems unfairly divided. Many people who have been employed in food establishment businesses will find themselves on unemployment. Those of us who are now cooking and eating at home may need to continue that after this crisis is over, as some or even many of our favorite establishments may be financially unable to re-open.

As of this writing, 46 US states have closed all schools, and the others have closed some. There is currently no known timeline for when schools and businesses will be able to reopen. Although many people appear to be hoarding toilet paper, there is no indication of a food or grocery shortage. There is a shortage of medical supplies, especially masks and respirators. This shortage is very troublesome given the increasing number of new Coronavirus cases and deaths in the US and worldwide from the condition.


I saw almost no people on my walk through my neighborhood, yet much of God’s beauty.

How are everyday Americans handling this new normal? The response to this epidemic is varied. While many are self-quarantining, some are going about their usual activities, seemingly unconcerned about the problem including how their actions can make things worse. The best example of this is the Spring Breakers refusing to use physical distancing to curb this tide.

How about the Americans who are self-quarantining? How are they spending their days? The first couple of days I was in a funk, unable or unwilling to be productive. I sat around, watching too much news about the virus, immobilized by what was and even more so by what might be. Although there is plenty that could be done, including cleaning out closets, organizing stuff, and various other tasks there is usually not enough time to do, I had no energy to do anything.

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This is especially important with our current reality.

After those first two days, I kicked myself into gear and decided to be productive. I began my overdue exercise routine, walking two miles a day to hopefully alleviate my new Osteoporosis and high cholesterol diagnoses. I also did what I usually do when I am upset. I cooked. And that junk drawer in my kitchen has never been more organized! My closet will be next. And I am writing, not wanting to lose the opportunity to record the lessons of this time.

How about you? How are you spending these days? When you look back at this time, how will you evaluate your actions? How will you measure how you played your part in this crisis?

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About Patti Fralix

Patti Fralix inspires positive change in work, life, and family through Speaking, Consulting, and Coaching in three specialty areas: Leadership, Managing Differences, and Customer Service. Her leadership firm, The Fralix Group, Inc., has been helping clients achieve practical and tangible results for twenty-two years.
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6 Responses to Our Current Reality

  1. So much to think about during this time, my friend. I am cooking more, cleaning more, and must put organizing at the top of my list. Turning off the news helps me greatly, I can only take so much in a given day. Stay safe and keep writing and doing the things you enjoy most. Much love to you and Mike!

    • Patti Fralix says:

      Thank you, dear friend. I think one of the hardest parts of this is not knowing how long it will last. One day rolls into another, with no end in sight. I think we will have a physical distancing order soon, since a couple of other counties near us already do. I am cooking, walking a couple of miles a day, and organizing. I make a list of three things to accomplish daily, and am staying on track. Lots of love to all of you.

  2. lulu says:

    So far staying put has not been too bad as the hubby and I are good at entertaining ourselves. Houston is shut down except for essential services, and I hope that people will be smart enough to take heed. Considering the number of people here there have so far been a limited number of cases which gives some credibility to staying in place.

    • Patti Fralix says:

      I am glad that some of us know how to entertain ourselves! That is one of the keys to not going bonkers with day after day of the same with no end in sight. This time reminds me of when my husband and I were in Hurricane Irma in St. Maarten in 2017, and most of our time was sitting, waiting. I could write a book, but do not have the energy, so I will continue to cook, which is my therapy. Stay safe. Linda, and thanks for your comments.

  3. Sara says:

    So, I am one who is not on self quarantine. But, out of respect for this disease, I come straight home from work and don’t go out until work the next morning. I imagine some of my closets and drawers would get cleaned out and organized if my work is affected. I am so glad to hear that you are using this time to take care of yourself. So many tend to hunker down, worry and stress eat. I am sure that you know who holds our future and that frees you to make positive use of your time. I hope your message will encourage others to do the same.

    • Patti Fralix says:

      Thank you so much, Sara. I am glad that you are able to go about your normal, although each day you are being exposed to others who can infect you. Thank you for your service to others. Your closets and drawers can wait; there is plenty of time for that, and it is not the most important way to spend your time. I do know who holds our future, so worry is not front row center for me, although I do worry about our grandchildren, and their parents! I am trying to see this time as a precious gift to slow down, do some things I do not normally think I have time to do, and cook, cook, cook. Take care. This too shall pass, and we will be changed people, if we do the work required to make the best use of this experience

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