We should know if we owe someone an apology! An apology given after the words, “If I Owe You an Apology” is not an apology at all. Don’t qualify your apology, just apologize! And do not say, “That was not my intent.” Your intent is irrelevant. Your intent matters only to you. The other person judges you based on their perception of your behavior. This is so simple, yet people frequently wallow around in their apologies and their intent and make matters worse!
We too often want to prove our point and do not want to feel that we are wrong. When we use phrases like those above, we only make matters worse. Just apologize and keep your intent to yourself!
Communicating effectively is simple, yet not easy. I could say a lot more about this, but I think I will just let those points sink in, and make this my shortest blog ever.
Enough said.
It's In The Sauce! 
Saying I am sorry if I offended you is not an apology. It is placing the blame on the other person instead of being willing to say, Would you forgive me and waiting for them to answer.
Just more thoughts to your post, my friend.